trusting that God's love is real and available..

We are now in Montreal's Petite Italie neighborhood with our children and grandchildren. We've loved it for almost 20 years and have often shared it with our loved ones, too. After an earthy and robust lunch at a local brasserie, Vices and Versa on Boul. Saint-Laurent, the wider family went to the Old Port for some wandering while we elders chilled, rested, and regrouped. We've walked almost every section of this splendid city for two decades but sensed we needed a bit of a break this afternoon. It was the right call.

As the afternoon ripened, I read two essays that spoke to my maturing sense of call both as a pastor and an apostle of rock'n'roll. The first by Anglican priest Jon Swales connects a commitment to the way of Jesus with embodied compassion. He writes:

The call of the Kingdom, the summons of every genuine disciple, is not simply to study Jesus through Scripture, but to follow His way with our lives. We are called to incarnate something of His life in our own time and place, allowing the Kingdom to take flesh within our own story. And so, among the dispossessed, the forgotten, and the traumatized, we seek to make visible both the King and His Kingdom. In following Him there, we are ourselves slowly shaped into His image — cruciformly formed by the One whose Kingdom comes not through power over others, but through self-giving love. (Jon Swales, FB, August 13, 2026)

The second by Rowland Smith makes the case that the fundamental reason why more and more North Americans have quit religion is NOT their disdain for Jesus but their lived experience with church. When fidelity and faith have been reduced to merely attending worship instead of incarnating compassion, it's no wonder bored people bolt! Add to this a harsh, cruel, and judgmental mixture of bigotry, fear, shame, jingoism, and anti-science elitism, and church life bears no resemblance to the One sent into the world to make God's love flesh. Smith suggests that it's long past due to ask:

In light of John 20:21 (where Jesus greets his friends in the resurrection, saying: Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, so I now send you!), isn't it long past due to ask how Jesus was sent by the Father?” If we survey the Gospels and look at the rhythms of Jesus’s sent life and ministry, we see Him walking dusty roads and loving people who had messy lives. The people he spent time with were often criticized by religious leaders (see Matthew 9:11). Jesus’ actions, highlighted by Gospel writers, involved many healings, encounters with the sick and broken, and compassion on those who were considered outcasts by the religious culture of the day. There were times when Christ verbally communicated information about God and His kingdom. But it’s worth noting that, primarily, He displayed the kingdom through actions and encounters with others. By traveling with Jesus, the disciples learned firsthand just how Jesus was sent by the Father. (Missio Alliance, August 3, 2026)

In an era that is hyper-polarized, saturated with fear and hate, overstimulated in every way imaginable, and disgusted with politics of every variety, my experience is that most of us ache to encounter these five realities in discipleship.  

1) A community that insists that God's love is both real and available to us all.

 

2) A worship experience that cherishes tradition as well as innovation in a contemplative mix of song, sound, silence, and solace.

3) A grounded liturgy that is safe, welcoming, engaging, inclusive, accessible while also satisfying us spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually.

4) A cadre of ordinary people who humbly refuse to judge another's journey and boldly seek one another's welfare.

5) A teaching ministry that helps busy and often weary adults practice an inward journey of faith that both empowers their souls and encourages them to let their outward lives bring tenderness and trust to those in need.

Fr. Jon Swales describes this incarnational wildness with bold strokes that resonate with me in his: Gospel of the Wounded Church.

The wild Messiah
is not done walking.
But now
he limps in the Body.
Here is the Church—
the Body of Christ,
broken.
She is the Bride—
covenanted,
called,
blessed to be a blessing,
light of the world,
a city on a hill.
But this Bride
has scars.
Some wounds are holy—
from washing feet,
bearing burdens,
serving the unseen,
kneeling where no king kneels.
But not all wounds are holy.
Some are self-inflicted—
scars from crusades,
stains from scandals,
the sword grasped
when the cross was forgotten.
And sometimes—
these seasons of
faithfulness and failure
happen at the same time.
She breathes in mercy
and inhales empire.
She touches the untouchable
and yet turns away.
A complicated Bride.
A Bride in need of healing.
Yet even now,
this broken Body
is still His Body.
Christ is not ashamed
to wear her wounds.
Even the scandalous scars
are gathered into grace.
For this is the wounded Church
sent into a wounded world—
a world unravelled by greed,
choked by climate breakdown,
teetering on the edge of collapse.
She is cross-cultural,
multi-lingual,
a global mosaic of mercy.
Here is a village chapel—
wooden benches,
a fragile choir
singing with hearts on fire.
Here is a grand cathedral—
stone arches,
candles lit,
ancient prayers
echoing in stained glass light.
Here is a corrugated iron hut—
the Spirit moves
as hands are laid
on the sick and the suffering.
Here is a city storefront—
where addicts and artists
gather to sing psalms
that break in unexpected hallelujahs.
Here is a protest march—
banners raised,
tears in the streets,
as songs of justice
rise into the tear-gas air.
Here is a quiet home—
an elder’s hands
cradling scripture,
as grandchildren
learn the stories
that shape the soul.
One Body,
many wounds.
One Gospel,
many accents.
The Church’s fractures
may yet become
the cracks
through which light gets in.
At her best,
she weeps with those who weep,
names the silenced,
stands interruptible in the crowd,
interrupting the machinery of death.
At her worst,
she forgets the Wild Messiah,
and the blessing becomes a blight.
But still—
the Spirit broods over the waters.
Still—
mercy rises from the margins.
Still—
the Lamb who was slain
leads her home.
Let the Church be like this—
honest about her fractures,
humble in her witness,
wild in her mercy.
Not a museum of saints,
but a field hospital of grace.
Not a fortress of certainty,
but a covenant people,
wounded yet sent.
The Gospel was never clean.
It still smells of sweat and sorrow,
rupture and resurrection.
It will not be televised.
It will be whispered
at the edges.
It will be sung
by the ones who stayed.
Let the Church be like this—
wounded,
wild,
and faithful.
Amen.
And amen again.

to free your heart of ballast...

One part of our time away for reflection and rest comes to a close tonight - and we are both so grateful. It has been slow and reasonably easy. Yes, there have been a few unexpected and challenging walks that have taken their toll. But we've come to almost expect nothing less in Montreal. And given age and health concerns, we've adjusted our outings accordingly - and used our ancient Subaru rather than public transportation. Today we wandered through another bookstore where I scored the new novel by Liz Moore, The God of the Woods, a spiritual reflection, A Pilgrim's Tale by Ian Morgan Cron, grounded in the experience of a burned-out Anglican priest who finds new purpose with the Franciscans of Assisi, and another Can-Lit treasure by Esi Edugyan about a jazz musician in pre-WWII Berlin, Half-Blood Blues.

In the morning, we'll close our first stop in the neighborhood of McGill University that rests on the slopes of Mount Royal and head to la Petite Italie to be with our children and grandchildren for Anna's 9th birthday. We'll feast and chill, and go to Marche Jean Talon daily to savor the flavors, sights, and sounds of this sweet area. The Brooklyn crew will greet each day at their favorite Italian cafe; we'll join them later for tea and croissants before treating Anna and Lou to the beauty of Le Vieux Montréal, the old city, and retiring in the late afternoon for naps, more feasting, and eventually cake and presents. It is a privilege to spend vacation time with family, and this is one of our favorite places to gather.

 

I've been carrying around this poem I stumbled upon before leaving home that was written by the late John O'Donohue.

When you travel, a new silence goes with you,

And if you listen, you will hear what your heart

Would love to say.

A journey can become a sacred thing.

Make sure, before you go,

To bless your going forth,

To free your heart of ballast

So that the compass of your soul

Might direct you towards

The territories of spirit

Where you will discover

More of your hidden life;

And the urgencies

That deserve to claim you.

Lord, in your mercy, hear our prayer.

shine on...

As our time away in Montreal ripens, giving me a chance to slow down and look inward, I am grateful. For the next few weeks, there will be time for both deep rest and solitude to read, think, and pray more fully. Already, I am learning not only what is going on with Di's health, but also how to better support her as she makes sense of it all. The mystery of her maladies can be a sacred invitation into deeper tenderness if I am willing to get out of the way. The words I read earlier this week from Fr. Teilhard de Chardin continue to be helpful:

Like an artist who is able to make use of a fault or an impurity in the stone they are sculpting or the bronze they are casting so as to produce more exquisite lines or a more beautiful tone, God, without sparing us the partial deaths, nor the final death, which form an essential part of our lives, transfigures them by integrating them in a better plan - provided we lovingly trust in God. Not only our unavoidable ills but our faults, even our most deliberate ones, can be embraced in that transformation, provided always we repent of them. Not everything is immediately good to those who seek God: but everything is capable of becoming good.

This is, yet again, the wisdom of the Paschal Mystery embracing reality. As de Chardin notes elsewhere: Life, as a whole, makes no mistakes. This reminds me of the way Fr. Matthew Fox once restated an insight from the 13th-century mystic, Meister Eckhart: Reality is the will of God; it can always be better, but we must start with what is real. No place for magical thinking, denial, or fatalistic passivity in the authentic faith journey. Yes, there is surrender as the Serenity Prayer calls acceptance (and some contemporary feminists call relinquishing): God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. There is transcendence, too, as we connect to a love greater than anything our imagination can grasp. But transformative spirituality is always more of a dance than a destination where our volition as a partner welcomes the embrace of Divine grace. It is incarnational. Embodied. Real. And we can always say "no."

Fr. Jon Swales opens his new poem, "Three Sisters," describing some of what it means to live into a spirit-less era:

We live in a disenchanted age. A secular age
where meaning is reduced, mystery explained away,
and the world becomes what can be measured,
priced, consumed.
We forsake the living water and drink from
broken cisterns. And wounded,
reduced humanity forgets what it is.
Not image, but animal.
Not creature, but consumer.
Not soul, but matter.
We stumble east of Eden, exiled from a home
we can barely remember. Lost.

de Chardin put it like this: The only thing that matters in our existence is to live more and more intensely from the inside. And this is possible always and everywhere. That is, to be in the world in ways that release our truest self from shame, fear, and deceit. To nurture what Merton calls the eternal diamond within - that can never be defiled - so that it might shine more fully outward. As Jesus teaches in the Sermon on the Mount:

Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage. Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.

And so the band played on... 

paradox and trust rather than despair...

Today is an extra slow day: a storm with potentially dangerous winds is brewing,
so we'll wait it out and see what arrives later. Besides, I woke up feeling a bit run-down and headachy like something I ate recently was rebelling. Yesterday was pretty slow, too, given Di's CAD (Cold Agglutinin Disease) that kicked in after downing an iced tea on a steamy, humid day. We're still learning the unpredictable consequences of this one-in-a-million blood disease and will probably continue to be in a learning mode for the foreseeable future. This pause, however, gives me time to explore an idea that has been slowly percolating within for at least the past year - and maybe longer. 

I'm not sure what to call it, exactly, except to say that the words radical, mystical trust in God as revealed in Jesus as Christ comes the closest. St. Paul spoke of learning to see by faith, not sight (II Corinthians 5:7), as well as the invitation to live as fools in the eyes of the powerful elite (I Corinthians 4:10), and that is part of it. Jesus is reported to have taught followers to "seek ye first the kingdom of God" (Matthew 6:33) in the Sermon on the Mount, and that's another piece of the puzzle as well. Add to the mix my gradual disdain for the polemics and politics of both left and right - especially the self-righteous vilification of one another that exaggerates our opponent's failures without owning our own toxic hubris - and I have come to trust the mystical revolution of sacrificial and sacramental love as made flesh by Jesus to be a creative yet paradoxical alternative to the cynical despair of our era.

A few years back, Fr. Richard Rohr clarified this for me when he wrote: "Jesus does not directly attack the religious and institutional sin systems of his time until his final action against the money changers in the temple:

Because of this, Jesus’ primary social justice critique and action are often a disappointment to most radicals and social activists. Jesus’ social program, as far as I can see, is a quiet refusal to participate in almost all external power structures or domination systems. His primary action is a very simple lifestyle, which kept him from being constantly co-opted by those very structures, which I (and Paul) would call the “sin system.”

Currently, the political and religious Left seems to be saturated with a selfish and
hate-filled anger that demonizes those they disagree with and dismisses them as either blatantly stupid or totally demonic; while the political and religious Right cherry-picks the most vile, isolated Biblical proof texts to pursue their crusade of judgment, fear-mongering, cruelty, and death that ignores and desecrates the sacrificial witness of Jesus. Both, albeit with degrees of nuance, appear hell-bent on destroying one another with their apocalyptic fury. 

+ Those I cherish on the Left justify their so-called "righteous anger" by appealing to the time Jesus brandished a whip to overturn the tables of money changers in the Jerusalem Temple who collaborated with both the priests and the army of occupation to fleece pious peasants and working people. But let's be honest: this took place ONCE in the Lord's three-year public ministry. Look at the texts and the context: Matthew 21:12-13, Mark 11:15-17, Luke 19:45-46, and John 2:14-16. To be sure, Jesus embraced and incarnated more of the prophetic witness of ancient Israel's prophets - see Rohr's recent The Tears of Things for a popular introduction of this truth - but NEVER self-righteous and ugly anger dedicated to denigrating another. Most of the time Jesus simply engages real people where they live.

+ And those I love and value on the Right, either ignore Jesus completely - talk about heresy - or else willfully misinterpret his words about always having the poor with us to ignore the suffering of our marginalized sisters and brothers or else excuse their own selfishness or fear. Biblical scholar David Bentley Hart makes it abundantly clear in his translation of the New Testament that both the gospels and letters of St. Paul are wildly binary in their unconditional support of radical justice and compassion for the poor and marginalized. Hart also takes on the ideological misinterpretation of grace vs. law by documenting that when St. Paul celebrated grace over works, his argument was one of following the minutiae of Torah literally rather than figuratively. For in the early church there was never a moratorium on feeding the hungry, visiting the prisoner, caring for the outcast, or welcoming the stranger - including immigrants.

I often wonder whether the bellicosity of liberals is more about our loss of influence and privilege than a true burden for the suffering of this era. And it seems likely that the propaganda of fear used by so many conservatives is more about maintaining the chaos of the status quo than truly upsetting a culture of greed. Could it be that Frank Zappa was right when he told us that: Politics is the entertainment division of the military-industrial (and now information) complex?

So, rather than give in to cynicism (as Joni Mitchell so wisely named in "The Last Time I Saw Richard"), the despair of Nietzsche, or the absurdity of Sartre, I choose the paradoxical blessing of trust in God's guidance that Jesus articulated in the Sermon on the Mount. Small wonder dear Leonard Cohen told us that:

It's coming through a crack in the wall, a visionary flood of alcohol, from the staggering account of the Sermon on the Mount, which I don't pretend to understand at all.

In true Zen humility - and apophatic wisdom - Brother Len doesn't pretend to understand. Rather, he trusts - and the difference is both life-changing and salvific for me.

a spiritual practice for wandering...

Whenever we travel throughout Montreal and the Eastern Townships, I find myself journaling here often. It has become my spiritual discipline for wandering. Not only does intentionally sitting down to write give me a container to explore thoughts, feelings, and experiences, but it also affords me a way to insert quotes and wisdom from the various sources that fill my days. Along with a highly fluid use of A Book of Hours that summarizes some of Fr. Teilhard de Chardin's insights into bite-sized morsels that I can digest, this practice encourages me to synthesize each day's encounters in pursuit of what poet William Stafford calls those "small strands of synchronicity woven through my life."

Yesterday we strolled down Mount Royal from our current digs to the always lively and never serene Avenue Ste. Catherine. If you have read any of Louise Penny's Inspector Gamache novels, you know that Ste. Catherine is where the wild side exists in all its splendor and sadness. It's currently enduring a six-year renovation and renewal project that has turned the center of the avenue into an open pit filled with jackhammers, hydraulic drills, and brain-breaking metallic screams as concrete and piping are destroyed and replaced. By 2030, city officials promise a return to its former "walk on the wild side" ambiance, but currently it's a mess. Still, Ste. Catherine's sidewalks are filled with all types of hard souls. 

We were out to find Montreal's oldest Anglophone book shop: Argo. Our journeys are defined by a quest to find a city's best independent bookstores, jazz clubs, and old churches. Argo is a gem surrounded by an eclectic morass of Vietnamese soup shops, hair salons, doner kebob vendors, and weary children of God sleeping rough on benches, in doorways, or discarded mats. I came away with a Can-Lit mystery (always a fav) and a collection of homilies by the Rev. Maggie Helwig, which she calls Instructions for the End of the World.  

Holy synchronicity, Batman! On this sojourn, I also brought with me David Bentley Hart's retranslation of the New Testament, in which he strives to literally return the koine Greek of Christ's first disciples into the fury and angst of the original fractured syntax of men and women who also found themselves teetering on the edge of the apocalypse. Hart writes that after finding himself retranslating passages of the New Testament for students in lecture halls... because whatever translations they were using:

... obscured aspects of the original text I thought extremely important... I have come to believe that all the standard English translations render a great many of the concepts and presuppositions upon which the books of the New Testament are built largely impenetrable, and that most of them effectively hide (sometimes forcibly) things of absolutely vital significance for understanding how the texts' authors thought... what perhaps (impressed me most) with an unexpected force was a new sense of the utter strangeness of the Christian vision of life in its first dawning - by which I mean, precisely, its strangeness in respect to the Christianity of later centuries,. When one truly ventures into the world of the first Christians, one enters a company of "radicals" (for want of a better word), an association of men and women guided by faith in a world-altering revelation, and hence in values almost absolutely inverse to the recognized social, political, economic, and religious truths not only of their own age, but of almost every age of human culture. (The New Testament: A Translation, second edition, David Bentley Hart, revised introduction)

In other words, believers crafting instructions for how to live into the way of Jesus at the end of the world. Candidly, this simple truth knocked me on my butt. For while knowing this abstractly and accepting that my faith has long been shaped by the wisdom and biases of bourgeois, white, male Reformed theology, I never fully grasped that my ancestors in faith believed their end was imminent. I've been aided by various liberation insights, including second-wave feminists, people of color, the sociological analysis of Latin American believers, the wisdom of the indigenous people of the Americas, and those accompanying people with intellectual and physical disabilities, only to discover that once again, "I once was blind, but now I see."  Or more accurately, "only when the student is ready does the Buddha appear." Perhaps the ever encroaching wildfires, political corruption, cultural chaos, and jarring dualities of this era woke me up. All I know this morning is that that still small strand of silent synchronicity once again emerges, yes? 

After Easter this year, I started spending time with the apophatic wisdom-keepers of Christianity. Seeking the God Beyond by J.P. Williams continues to be a useful guide. He writes: "The goal of the spiritual life is to meet God and to keep meeting god, walking together as friend with friend. Knowing about God isn't the goal." And so the journey continues just as Rumi said:

Who makes these changes?

I shoot an arrow right.

It lands left.

I ride after a deer and find myself

chased by a hog.

I plot to get what I want

and end up in prison.

I dig pits to trap others

and fall in.

I should be suspicious

of what I want.

a time for reflection in montreal - redux

Fr. Richard Rohr has written that the story of Job teaches us that: "Ultimately, God cannot really be known through theology, the law, or common sense. God can only be related to and known through relationship." We can gather and accept information about the Sacred, we can collect volumes of wisdom distilled from the experiences of others about the Divine, too. But, as Rohr insists, unless we are ready, willing, and able to "feel deeply we can not know deeply either. It is only because Job is willing to feel his emotions that he is able to come to grips with the mystery of suffering in his head and heart and gut." And that mystery, as Fr. Teilhard de Chardin writes, is that:

Not only our unavoidable ills but our faults, even our most deliberate ones, can be embraced in a (holy) transformation, provided always that we repent of them. Not everything is immediately good to those who seek God; but everything is capable of becoming good.

This insight is almost always absent from traditional Reformed theology and its various spiritualities. In both Eastern Orthodoxy and Roman Catholicism, however, it is known as the Pascal Mystery, where even something as deadly as the Cross can become a life-giving blessing by God's grace and even an iota of faith/trust. Fr. de Chardin writes:

The flower I held in my hands withered in my hands. At the turn of the lane a wall rose up before me. Suddenly, between the trees, I saw the edge of the forest which I thought had no end. A flame burnt up the paper on which my thought was written. The testing time had come. But it did not bring the unalleviated sorrow I had expected, of being pulled up short by the uncertainties and limitations of every single particular good. On the contrary, a glorious unsuspected joy invaded my soul. And why was this, Lord, if not because, in the collapse of those immediate supports I came so dangerously close to accepting for my life, I knew with a unique experiential certainty that I would never again rely for support on anything save Your own divine consistence. (Teilhard de Chardin A Book of Hours, pp.147-8)

Two practices help me trust such a mystery: sitting silently with the wisdom of our wound. Silence is vital. Incrementally, it strips away my excuses, illusions, and defenses if I sit with it long enough. It is a strict but compassionate master that will not let me deflect or deny truth. And the truth that is always waiting to be born within the pregnant wisdom of my wounds is that my angst, my fury, my resentments, and addictions really are not what they seem. They are not a destination, but rather the doorway to grace if I am willing to let them teach me. And their lesson is so absurd and counter-cultural that I want to reject it: namely, that whatever I am feeling is usually the exact opposite of what I should do. When I want to lash out, it would be better to take some time out. When I want to scream, it would be best to shut up. And when I want to run away, the Sacred invites me to stay put. 

Sitting silently with the wisdom of my wounds takes practice. I still mostly hate it. Yet, without practicing and honoring the paradoxical wisdom of my wounds, I bring more hurt and darkness into the world. Fr. de Chardin adds:

Human suffering, the sum total of suffering poured out at each moment over the whole earth, is like an immeasurable ocean. But what makes up this immensity? Is it blackness, emptiness, barren wastes? No, indeed, it is potential energy. A price has to be paid for the struggle. The earth groans in travail with Christ. Like a wagon that creaks and grinds, progress advances painfully, bruised and tearful. Suffering holds hidden within it, in extreme intensity, the ascensional force of the world.

In one of his most vulnerable songs, Springsteen puts this well in "Living Proof."

a time for reflection: montreal 2026

We travel to Montreal often: at least twice a year - and sometimes more. Annually, we make a point to spend some time in the Eastern Townships of Quebec as well. It has become a place of refuge and reflection. Our first encounter occurred almost 20 years ago in pursuit of the trip hop band, Cinematic Orchestra. While in London the year before, we heard their brilliant synthesis of rap, jazz, electronica, and rock while browsing a shop at the Camden Market. Their groove blew me away. It was the heart and soul of "genre-bending" in all its transformative power. So, when the band hit Montreal, we joined them at a tiny venue, Club Soda, in a seedy section of town saturated with sex shops and souls who "only come out at night."

Since then, we've regularly returned both for inward and outward exploration. I've gone deep into a spirituality of tenderness here. We renewed our wedding vows with new rings here, explored an extended jazz sabbatical, basked in the brilliance of Lisa Fischer, Wayne Shorter, Alex Bellegarde, and studied the music of both Leonard Cohen and Joni Mitchell. Initially, I planned this pilgrimage to be about the universal consciousness of Fr. Teilhard de Chardin and the apophatic spiritual wisdom of the Eastern Church, with a short break to celebrate our granddaughter Anna's 9th birthday. But as happens so often, especially if you're at all familiar and resonant with the ways the ancient Celtic monks made pilgrimage, a deeper need has emerged: taking another step towards making peace with the mystery of Di's multiple maladies. Those sacred sojourners of old did not have a goal or even a destination for their peregrinations; rather, they wandered freely until they sensed a place of personal resurrection and stopped to enter the real, albeit obscure blessings of that place.

In retrospect, I might have sensed this was coming. Our trip from Massachusetts to Montreal included listening to a podcast about the unexpected death of Glenn Hansard, plodding our way carefully through multiple blinding downpours, and then discovering I'd forgotten a few necessities. Earlier in the week I'd shared a conversation with two of our friends from L'Arche Ottawa about how illness can include a more contemplative rhythm within it. I know this to be true abstractly but continue to find it much more difficult to affirm incarnationally. To be sure, I've long confessed to being a slow learner who shows up late to the party, and once again that truth is taking up residence within. So, what did I read at the start of this morning's quiet time?

Like an artist who is able to make use of a fault or an impurity in the stone they are sculpting or the bronze they are casting so as to produce a more beautiful tone, God, without sparing us the partial deaths, nor the final death, which form a essential part of our lives, transfigures them by integrating them in a better plan - provided we lovingly trust God. (Teilhard de Chardin: A Book of Hours, eds. Kathleen Deignan, CND and Libby Osgood, CND)

And just so that I wouldn't miss this challenging invitation, Fr. Richard Rohr added this from his reflection on Job:

No piece of religious literature teaches the way of “descent” more daringly and effectively than the book of Job. The story cries out against a darkness that refuses to reveal itself—and a path that does not feel at first like life at all. This makes it a challenging but important text for those of us in the West who tend to resist the archetypal and necessary journey of “descent.” We have been able to manufacture a kind of “ascent” unlike that of our ancestors. Reason, medicine, technology, and speed have allowed us to avoid the ordinary “path of the fall.” Now we are unpracticed and afraid of all kinds of suffering—big and small.

And in case I wasn't paying attention, Fr. Richard Rohr adds:

If the postmodern crisis is above all else a crisis of the self, and I think it is, then the story of Job realigns the “self”—correctly, humbly, and truthfully. What both Job and Jesus seem to say is that truth is finally a person and an encounter—much more than a concept that can be argued. It is not quick or easy to encounter the true self or the true God. Both encounters require a gradual unveiling that is both sacred and full of suffering. Every movement toward union with God will feel like a loss of self-importance and self-control. We are realigned with truth when the real person meets the real God—which is exactly the stuff of spirituality, good theology, and transformation.

I guess Sheryl Crow was right...